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Post by Kristin on Jun 19, 2014 9:41:29 GMT -5
So knock on wood I think we are for sure past the crying as soon as he gets up in the morning and there are even times he is happy during the day without excessive stimulation if he naps. Now it kind of seems like our problem has shifted to napping which it is an all day event to get him to nap because he is terrible at cueing and so I never know if he is tired until he starts crying which lately it seems like the majority of the time he is crying he is tired. This last Monday kind of in an act of desperation we let him cry it out in his crib and after 10 minutes of crying he fell asleep and slept for 2 hours. So we have been trying that now each time that he cries swaddling him and putting him in his crib and let him cry himself to sleep. It usually takes less than 10 minutes if we can hit the right window and not go too long but the later in the day we go the worse the naps get- sometimes only 20 minutes. So then he wakes up mad and cries. I'm so confused as to what to do. Is this still part of the colic? Or not? Just napping problems? Because if we miss the small window to get him down for a nap then he won't go down and just cries and cries. He'll be 3 months next week and it seems like the consensus about sleep training is you have to wait until they are 4 months. So now we have to deal with another month of colic like behavior from lack of sleep just because we shouldn't start sleep training him? How can such a little person that needs so much sleep during the day time resist it so much?
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Post by Kristin on Jun 21, 2014 20:57:14 GMT -5
I think we have survived colic. Now on to sleep problems. For all of you out there it will get better. Just try and take it one day at a time.
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Post by Leah on Jul 2, 2014 20:55:01 GMT -5
My son was the same. He was born in March. It started to get better after 3 months. Then there was teething. Our baby is still not like other people's babies. Swaddle, put in cradle swing that rockes side to side and Walk Away--our pediatrician (who had a collically too) advised. Also eliminate soy and dairy.
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Post by ariasmom on Jul 18, 2014 14:49:44 GMT -5
Kristin, how are things? BTW I have said I made a mistake having a kid MANY TIMES. Its ok, in the long run, you'll have a best friend! Just not at first!!!!!
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Post by michellehopkins80 on Jul 18, 2014 16:23:48 GMT -5
IM NOT ALONE!!
I have a 5 week old baby and she has had colic since she was born. She cries from the time she wakes until the time she goes to sleep. Her worst hours are between 7pm-midnight. She doesn't sleep well at night, she's very restless and seems to never be in a deep sleep. She will sleep on my chest sometimes and if we walk while holding her. It has been so hard to bond with her or enjoy her because of the constant crying! I have several friends who had babies a few weeks after me and all of their babies are laying under play gyms, smiling, cooing, awake and not crying... And all my daughter does is cry!! All I keep hearing is it will get better and I'm sure it will but it's so frustrating! I dont like that she's so unhappy and uncomfortable! I hate seeing her like that!
We have been to the doctor and he said it was colic and he thought the formula she was on was fine for her, he gave her some reflux medicine and that's not working, we swaddle and that doesn't work, we put her in the swing and that doesn't work, we do all white noises and they don't work, we do gripe water, gas drops, car rides, stroller(she hates her car seat!).........we have tried EVERYTHING! We are at our end and our patience is running thin. I don't want to take her anywhere because of the constant crying and people offer to help but I'm not going to put them through a screaming baby! Everyone has said it could last up to 3 months, I can't imagine going through this for 2 more months!
I just wish that there was something that could help with this instead of just hearing, it will get better! I want to watch my baby girl hit her milestones not watch her fry 24\7!
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Post by kristin on Jul 18, 2014 20:52:27 GMT -5
ariasmom. - we survived. It was the most horrible thing I have ever lived through. I said to my husband so many times I would take the end of pregnancy, and I went 10 days over and had to be induced twice, with 30 hours of labor that was very close to needing an emergency c-section, and repeat that 10 times over to not have a baby with colic. We are on to sleep issues now which is a whole other beast. *good times*. We are thinking of hiring a sleep consultant because at this point I know when he gets fussy or cries that a lot of the time it is because he is tired and from developing horrible sleep habits during colic -he could only sleep during the day if in motion because being in motion (driving, walking, swinging) was the only thing that made him stop crying. But I will take that any day over the crying/screaming for no reason. I looked back on some of the previous threads on here about post colic sleep problems and some of those sound exactly like our son. I went to a baby shower last night and was talking to a friend who knew our son had colic. I told her we graduated and were on to sleep issues. The girl she was talking to right before me said "they all have sleep issues". I wanted to punch that girl in the face. She had a baby right after we did and she has a very easy baby.
Colic is bullnuts. It leaves so many broken pieces after. Emotional issues, bonding issues, sleep issues. I'm finally beginning to feel a bond little by little. Reading this blog post below was something that would get me through each day sometimes. Validation that I was not crazy, that other people's babies are not like ours. The only thing text book about our baby was his colic. Started at 2 weeks ended about 3 months
noLinks://www.babyrabies.com/2011/03/giving-myself-more-credit-for-surviving-colic/#sthash.G67CYV5s.doRyW8O0.dpbs
@michelle- if people offer to help let them! It won't bother them the way it bothers you. You have to take care of yourself too. It is soo hard. I totally understand. It was horrible. I'm on antidepressants and in therapy over it. It sucks. It's so frustrating to see other babies not cry and just be content. Don't pay attention to them. Survive. That is what you have to do. It is crap and it is so not fair but I have to believe (at least for our situation) that it had to be because we could handle it. It makes me very very sad to think it our son would have gone to someone else less able to handle it. He probably would be seriously hurt or dead and I am not kidding. You can do this, but make sure you take time to take care of yourself. It is so important and might be the only thing that gets you through. If you feel like you have PPD get treatment. It helps so much. You will survive and you will be a more empathic parent because of it. Just tell yourself each day I will not remember the events from today. I had to do that every night. You won't remember the details, which is a blessing. You will just remember it was hard, incredibly hard.
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Post by sarahc on Jul 20, 2014 14:21:13 GMT -5
I too am suffering through colic. My 3 yr toddler had the typical cry from 7p-10p colic.. But my 8 week old cries all day long!! If you set him down while he is awake, be prepared for some blood curdling screams.. It is impossible to eat, get anything done around the house, cook, entertain my 3 yr old, sleep etc. we have tried everything.. He is on Zantac, we use colic calm during his bad episodes (whic helps), gas drops (aren't worth a darn), I'm cutting out dairy, but THE THING THAT HELPED THE MOST is a book I read about colic and I highly recommend you read it! It totally changed my perspective on why he is crying and helped cut out some of the guessing games.. It's called "the happiest baby on the block" by dr Harvey Karp. We started swaddling after I read the book and it calmed him down in less than 2 mins.. I am a terrible swaddled so we have to use the miracle blanket (which is truly miraculous!) which prevents him from wiggling his arms out. At first he hated it but now he calms down as soon as we put him in it. Using the tools and insight from that book, I have been able to calm him diwn much more quickly which has reduced our crying time from 3 hrs per night to about 45 mins to an hour and he is still very fussy during the day but I'm able to control it a little better. He still has "colic" and a terribly gassy tummy with reflux but now I am able to sympathize with him and calm him so much easier. I still get very frustrated at times and I am still very jealous of friends who have happy "easy going" babies but hopefully I'll get over that with time.
It sucks going through this not once, but TWICE!! But I'm praying for light at the end of the tunnel. I'm exhausted and emotional most days but that is to be expected for all of us here going through this. And outlets like these help tremendously. I really hope that by posting this, it will help another mommy learn how to calm her baby more efficiently.
Also, I have started giving him Gerber good start soothe probiotics and I am also taking a probiotic while nursing and that seems to have helped his tummy discomfort. He still passes a lot of gas and has tummy pains at times but he seems better since starting these drops and I started giving them 6 days ago.
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