I'm typing this at 3 in the morning while my son (almost four months old) is sitting in his swing screaming his brains out- like he has been doing all night- again. This is so incredibly hard and I am so depressed. I have tried everything and nothing works. Everyone keeps telling me that it gets better but I am still waiting. Everyone also says that this ends at about 3 mos. but I've passed that mark and the colic is still going strong.
This is affecting my marriage- we are on completely opposite schedules and are so tired and stressed from "shift" that we go to bed as soon as the other one gets up. I am now also scared to leave the house because it is so hard to go to the store- or anywhere- with a baby that won't stop crying. I do nothing while I am awake except try to calm a miserable baby and wait until it is my turn to go back to bed.
I want so bad to enjoy being a new mother but this is the furthest thing from enjoyable. I have never ever been this stressed or depressed. I get glimpses of a happy baby and I cannot wait until they become more than passing moments during the hours of nonstop crying. I hope I am not the only one not enjoying motherhood like they thought they would.
I have a 2 month old colic baby and a son who just turned four who was colic too. He is such a happy kid and his colic went away around 4 months. I thought it would never stop with him either. Just stopped. What I do with her is put her in the car and drive and drive. She fusses when I first get her in the car seat but when we start driving she stops. I also turn on the loud stove vent fan and she stops crying instantly. i also got a white noise machine for 10 bucks at CVS and it helps alot. When its unbearable I turn on my vacuum and she stops instantly. I hope this helps! This too shall pass. Go on some short term anti-depressants and/or anti-anxiety meds too. I did and it helps with my crying and stress! Stay Sane!
I'm so thankful to have found this. My poor little one has been colicy from three weeks on and at almosthe four months he's still going strong. He cries anywhere from 5 hours a day to all day with only breaks when he passes out. The hardest part for me is knowing that something is wrong and he is hurting or uncomfortable in some way. I really don't believe that some babies just cry for no reason. No medicine, doctor, or unconditional love can make it better and that is heartbreaking. Just remember that only time can fix it but just being their lessens their stress and pain even if it doesn't seem like it.
Check out the book "the happiest baby on the block" by dr Karp. So helpful!! I have cut dairy out and noticed one day after I accidentally are cheese that my babies eczema was worse. Also, ketchup or anything acidiccan hurt their tummies too
I'm glad to read that I am not the other mother out there that has a very, VERY, fussy & colicy baby! My baby Michael is almost 6 months, and I still have episodes of him screaming for almost 2 hours. I switched from Similac Advanced to Similac Sensitive and it worked wonders. I have a 7 year old & a 3 year old and I can barely spend time with them. I feel like a bad mother when I can't do anything for him & always giving him my attention, but now that I read all these other stories...I feel like I'm not alone.
Out of curiosity, for any of those here breastfeeding do you notice any foods that set them off or make it worse? That is THE only thing we haven't done.
I noticed a difference when I remove almost everything from my diet, I was eating oatmeal for brekkie, chicken and rice for lunch and chicken and rice for dinner plus an apple a day. No supplements, no vegetables, no wheat, no fish, no dairy, no citrus fruits. When I stockbroker the simple diet, my baby was very calm, but the moment I ate anything else, he started screaming again. Unfortunately one cannot sustain such for long. Because you are also not supposed to take supplements. But for me, it reached a point where I said I will sustain öt coz I slept and my baby was happy.
I did the exact same thing as Jessica. I only did it for a week though, because there was NO difference and no sign of improvement even a little. OHH the mystery of colic... I think colic has more than one cause/reason and varies between babies.
While it is encouraging to read so may similar experiences it also is disheartening that so many say it was longer then 4months until they saw an improvement. Our sweet girl was 5 weeks premature and colic symptoms started around the 4week mark. She is just over 4 and a half months with the same symptoms. .
Our attempts to calm, soothe and comfort our baby include(d)-
-No matter how long after a feed I spend with her upright and patting her back till my hand is numb I get very few burps. -We tried the homeopathic version of grip water. Didn't do a thing. -Warm bath...kept her calm while in the bath but the screaming started as soon as you lifted her out. -warm compress to the tummy didn't do a thing...kept right on screaming. -Eliminating dairy which did help quite a bit, she's a different baby without the diary yet still very fussy, uncomfortable and tons of screaming fits. -We tried actual gripe water (alcohol free). Helped a little with getting her to burp. -A sound machine for white noise...didn't really do much of anything at all. -We tried bio gaia which we had high hopes for since many people said it was basically a magical potion...haven't noticed much of a difference. -She never liked to be swaddled -One thing that really has been our saving grace was a baby carrier wrap...one that holds the baby close and tight. Every time I put her in she would instantly stop screaming and fall asleep. Only thing with that is we couldn't transition her to her bed and any time she wasn't in there she would scream...but it did help with giving a bit of a mental break for a little bit so we could breath and sometimes eat or owe or even just sit on the couch and not move.
Having a colicky baby has totally turned me into this superstitious mom...what calms her down one time I try to recreate the exact same scenario in hopes of it working a second time...but obviously that doesn't work. But you've gotta try right?
We haven't tried essential oils, I'm a bit of a skeptic and also don't know how I feel about it but at the same time...desperate times right? I don't know what else to try. Maybe other things in my diet? I don't consume caffeine, I haven't since before she was born when I first found I was pregnant.
My husband works long hours and shift work and so it's just me (though I have a fantastic mom who helps out and I try to get out or have people over so I can stay sane), this is our first baby and it's been very draining. I had lots of experience with newborns and infants prior to having our girl, my husband had none and so he was and is a bit more nervous and uncomfortable holding her when she's screaming. I was told by our doctor that it's unlikely that we would have a second colic baby...but I've been reading many forums apart from this one where many have said their second and/or third has been colicky. We really want large family, but heaven help me of o have multiple colicky babies.
I guess there's not much left to do other then wait it out, though I am totally open to suggestions.