? colicy baby

[kt89]

I think I've got a colicy baby, haven't had it confirmed by the doctor yet... But my son has all the symptoms, he is currently 6 weeks and 5 days old. He screams for hours mostly in the evenings most days of the week, those evenings he doesn't are simply amazing but are very limited at the moment. How easy those mums that have Cruzy babies have it..... bubs colic is putting a little strain on our marriage as we both get a little stressed out when he cries, and say things we don't mean to each other. It's hard and I know we'll all make it through it eventually but it's just so hard right now. I would just like to hear other peoples stories so that I don't feel so alone...

Thanks for reAding

[cmickc]

You are not alone ! We will get most likely get diagnosed with colic at our two month appointment tomorrow. We have been calling the nurse helpline and they have indicated it is colic. I am really hoping that they will prescribe reflux medication and I'm wondering if anyone has had luck with this. My husband and I have also been fighting a lot more as we are definitely under more stress and it's very tiresome. We probably sleep a total of 2 to 3 hours every night for the past couple of weeks. He has to go to work, but I don't, however, I've been wishing that I could just go to back to work as it would be a lot easier. I am not sure what would be easier work or maternity leave with a incessantly crying baby... I am beginning to think that work would be a lot easier. It's ironic as well because I work with children who are severely physically and mentally disabled.

[newmama]

I have been through exactly what you both are describing. Hang in there. I can truthfully say that you do forget how hard it was once its over. Our baby is still pretty high needs but we just like to call her spirited! Know that there is light at the end of the tunnel, When I was going through it thats all I kept saying..When will this end? Will it end?? And it does and you will be able to enjoy your lil one! As for the reflux meds..We had her on Zantac and I honestly do not know if it helped or not. I dont know if it was just time that helped or everything that we were doing for it. My honest opinion- it was just riding it out and her maturing. BUT- Zantac is harmless and so it helped to know that if she was suffering from acid reflux we were doing something to help her. Because not only do you feel crazed, I also felt like a bad mama- like what am I doing wrong??! But you are doing nothing wrong. Its the universes big joke- COLIC. Ha. My husband and I would joke- there must be a quota of colicky babies to be handed out and we were given one because we are good people and could handle it! Try not to let it get a hold of you or your relationship. Joke, vent and know that you will get through it!

[ALM]

newmama, no offense or anything but you really DONT forget how hard it is. Like truthfully. We had horrid colic for the first 4 months at LEAST of our boys life, hes almost 9 months old now, and honestly, it was so exhausting and horribly discustingly hard, we are horrified to the point that we can say we are 150% never having another child again. THAT IS FOR SURE. we both me and my husband had a lot of tough times losing my twin sister to a tragic accident, losing a ton of family members in under a year, and the stress of life, combined with our son having horrible colic, not sleeping for MONTHS AND MONTHS on end, the diapers, the screams, the no sleep, the stress, the no money, no time for anything, having to carry your house with you when you leave the house with a baby, no thank you, no more, no way. I think its a joke when people say "ohhh you will forget about it soon enough!" umm, what planet are you living on? my son is super happy and has been sleeping through the night for months now and I still have noooo desire for another child. as a matter of fact, if I fell pregnant again, I would be so upset I couldn't handle it. Plus, when your child is 2 or 3 yrs old, why start ALL OVER again with diapers, no sleep and stress of having a baby? when the child is 2-3 years old, you MAYBE can regain some of your life back, and it starts to become recognizable again, why stress yourself more? just so your child can have a sibling? no thanks. maybe I just had a horrid experience, but I have yet to think having a baby at ANY stage of the game is somewhat normal/easy. its soooo demanding.

[alm]

Dec 1, 2013 9:16:18 GMT -5 ALM said:

[newmama]

No offense taken and everyone is entitled to their opinion. Sounds as if you did have a horrible experience. While it was extremely tough for us as well I for one can say that I have forgotten what it was like to be in the throws of it. And I was trying to offer support for those who are in the thick of it. Because that is what helped me get through. Knowing that others were there and made it. I am sorry for your losses and for the terrible experience that you had. I am sure if you went on here during that time it helped to have people say positive things. That is what I was trying to do. Hope and faith. Love and light.

[raylene58]

I'm in the situation, hes 4 months and I dont know if its colic, high needs?? Whatever it is, he cries alot in the day, all day, but luckily he does sleep at night for a good 5 hour stretch and a couple more after a feeding. Everything everyone is saying is true. I felt an actual wedge in our marriage for a while just because of the stress from crying, we each need a chance to recover from shifts so to speak. One thing that has helped, is work! For me yes work was good, commnute and all. It gave me my sanity, I talked to humans and was not worried about keeping my baby from crying 24 hours a day round the clock. I got a break, and felt more able to handle him in the evenings. Weekends, another story lol. It does suck if you stay at home and one works because you feel like you need to sacrifce the nights for the working partner. There should be some happy medium. The only thing I do is tell my self ..it can only get better, we just have to make it thru as a unit. Our son is just having a rough transition to the world, and we have to help him through it, and try to remember why we had a kid in the first place and just adapt. Im just assuming this whole first year might be a bust, and plan for it, if its less you are pleasantly surprised. I do agree with the other girl, I am one and done, this I can not go throgh again. I dream of when he is 2 and he can walk and I can tell whats bothering him etc. I welcome chasing down a toddler any day over endless crying. There is hope!! I think once they can sit up and move it gets better too, my son has wanted to walk since the day he was born, I feel like that could be part of his frustration. But when he is happy on those rare moments, Im so happy too! Dont let the baby break up your marriage. YOu have to pull thru and come up with a plan to get you thru.

[nosika823]

my husband and I have definitely been awful to each other when we're screaming because no one can hear anyone (not to mention we have a 2 1/2 yr old as well). I thought that there was no way my 2nd would be as difficult as my first but apparently he didnt get the memo b/c he's actually more difficult. Doing this for a 2nd time my only saving grace is knowing that there is light at the end of the tunnel.I can't say that I dont look at him and wonder sometimes"you poor thing what did I do or did I not do to make you this way. you sure didn't ask for this pain" b/c thats what it sounds like is screaming pain. but let me tell you what else is frustrating is btw when your toddler knows better and chooses to make your life difficult. my husband does not remember the crying nights with my daughter I do. so some ppl remember and some people don't. but truly this time shall pass and there will be other things to worry yourself about. my lactation counselor told me that when I had my daughter and think about it often now. good luck

[ariasmom]

ALM, you sound like me. Super bitter. I am so bitter that my baby was that way. I was the one that wasn't sure I even wanted kids while everyone around me had baby fever. I got pregnant at the same time as a few of my friends ( totally not planned, but it was cool to be pregnant with my friends). THen ironically I had the most difficult kid reassuring me that I was correct in my hesitant decision of whether to even have a baby in the first place, while all my friends got these super easy babies. I agree with you. I don't know 150% that I'll never have another, but I don't even wanna think about it.Sounds horrible. My baby is so freaking demanding sometimes I just want OUT! I really appreciate your post and it feels extremely refreshing to see that there is ANOTHER human being that feels like me. Certainly not all roses about babies! THANK YOU for that! I mean lets be real about what we went through!

[raylene58]

To all, since I vented just like you all have. I just wanted to let you know my son turned a corner literally overnight at just over 4 months. At his 4 month doctor visit I was shocked how good he was, then I had another appt and he sat on my lap quietly for hours. THen we got home and he fell asleep without fighting me. I was like WTF? Then the next day the same thing. I realized A, he can almost sit up on his own. Since birth I have had a sneaking suspicison part of his anger was because he was a blob, hes always wanted to do more. He is now laughing, touching my face and toys nd generally is becoming a person, and I think he loves it. The crying went from like 90% of the time to 20% or less. He still prefers to be held and hates being left in things, but other then that. Hes soooooooooooo much happier and so am I. I was clinically depressed and was also thinking was this a mistake? Now things will only get better, with you kid, yourself, and you relationship with your significant other.

[kberg]

Ariasmom and ALM -- I'm totally in agreement with the both of you. I don't think I'll ever recover from the trauma! And I WILL NEVER forget. My boy's two years old now and we are past the colic (his ended between 7-8 months of age). I didn't think it would end, and the thought of going through that again makes me physically ill. Like I seriously feel the vomit coming up in my throat. I'm bitter that I didn't get to enjoy that part of my son's life, and sometimes it's tempting to think that maybe, just maybe if I have another baby that he/she wouldn't be like my son, but I don't think the risk is worth it. I don't know if I have it in me to endure all of that a second time.

My son's screaming would start and I would get this sick feeling in my stomach knowing that I could do nothing to make it stop. Nothing. And that it would go on for hours. As a parent, not being able to console your baby is the worst.

I used to Google like a crazy woman, looking for cures and little tidbits of advice or comfort. But nothing anyone could say ever really helped or comforted. So I don't try to offer advice to anyone going through this. There's really nothing you can say to make it better, other time will pass and your child will grow. Which doesn't help someone who's living in hell right now. I'm sorry but it's true

[Peo]

I just don't know where to begin! I'm a new mom my son was born on 12/20/13 I was so happy to have this baby and officially start our family. My son will be three weeks old tomorrow and his colic started approximately a week ago. I am so stressed and feel like I'm at my breaking point I can't sleep and have lost my appetite. I feel so helpless and at times I can see how people hurt their children just the stress alone will have you thinking the craziest of thoughts. Although I would never harm my child I have had to put him down on several occasions and walk away until I have regained composure. My poor baby is probably just as stressed as I am and neither one of us can help the other. I was not an only child and neither was my husband and we both planned on having another baby to provide a sibling for our son but there is no way in hell I would go through this again. I can say that for certainty and unfortunately for me this is only the beginning.