There really should be a thing called that. For parent who have been through what we have been through how did you cope after it was over? My son has only been over it for about a month and I'm on antidepressants for PPD that I KNOW is from dealing with colic but I still feel upset a fair amount of the time. Upset on the things we missed out on. Upset that I was just barely able to walk post delivery and had to deal with a crying and only sometimes consolable baby. I was at my OB's office today and I started to cry thinking back on when I was pregnant and coming for appointments there and how exciting having a baby seemed. I know there is no use crying over spilled milk, but how do you move on? I still feel fairly traumatized. Any one else in the same boat?
Time. Because everything changes and its true that one day all of this will just be a memory for you. We're still moving on passed my unexpected experience of having a newborn. BUT everything about having my now 19 month old, has pretty much been a normal experience. YES the infant year was different for me, but EVERYONE's toddlers are a handful! Eventually you become the person that handles it so well because your infant cried and screamed and fussed til no end while everyone else's slept and laid snug in their arms and smiled at the mobiles etc etc and people have a look on their face of stress from their toddler that won't stop screaming or throwing a fit AND YOURS WILL BE TOO but you won't care as much because all of a sudden ONE DAY you have this really cold kid that laughs and hugs you back and says words like "doggie" and "sun" how cute! And you've been through hell so all of this is something you are good at and use to. You see, everyone has some rough time taking care of a kid at some point, some times multiple points, but you gotta take it like its not that big a deal. Sure, we are always going to feel robbed of that joy we expected- even if I ever have another I would never know the feeling of your first the way most do, but TIME really does make it better. Just take it one day at a time as I've said before, no countdowns!
Post by EmilyPieds on Feb 12, 2015 14:05:06 GMT -5
Hi there, I have been searching and searching for answers related to colic as my daughter is now 3.5 months with no signs of colic letting up. Or I should say it got better for a week and then reared its ugly head again. I, like you, was SO excited about having a baby and couldn't wait to meet her. We had her last October after a failed induction that ended in a C-Section. So many people kept telling us how special that first Christmas would be, but to be completely honest it was a nightmare. The crying didn't and still doesn't ever stop. I had to give up breastfeeding because she was so hysterical - and the only thing that mildly calms her is a bottle (while being bounced and looking around). The only blessing is that she sleeps 11 hours at night straight, which gives me a much needed break. I too was diagnosed with PPD and I know it is because of the colic. You feel helpless, exhausted, and at your wits end. I always wanted multiple children but after this experience I think we may be one and done. I keep reminding myself that God chose me for this little girl and vice versa. I keep praying for patience and reminding myself that this will end - it doesn't make it any easier, but I know in my heart it will not be like this forever. I hope that your little one is much better given that time has past since your first post. It's something that nobody understands, no matter how hard they try, unless they have walked that frustrating and lonely journey.
Only years later, with another colicky baby, did I realized what I was going through was ptsd. I felt all the symptoms and trauma but didn't know what the cause was. To make matters worse, also experienced a miscarriage during that colicky time period. The thing that hurts most is you feel alone and no one understands. You also start doubting yourself and losing confidence as a parent. And even after the colic is gone every time you hear a remote cry out discomfort from your child your alarm bells go off. You get programmed to jump and cringe. It takes time to heal and in my case after finally healing...here I am again with another colicky baby and a toddler to balance!
My baby’s tummy issues made him fussy. , nothing soothe him until I used “Babies magic tea”, it helped amazingly and soothed him instantly.
Doesn't sound like colic then. I'm sitting here with my son laying asleep on me for a few minutes after another, this time, thankfully short hour of inconsolable screeching bout staring at the stack of colic relief gripe water, baby magic tea, reflux medicine, gas drops, lactase, belts, swaddles, etc surrounded by every swing, bassinet, and useless rocker you could imagine.