Ok, I'm back to this board. That means it bad. I LIVED on here for support the first 19 months of my ds life. He was colic for 10 LONG months. He is 16 months old and still very high maintenance, crabby, fussy, etc. I am at my wits end. I don't want to spent time with him, my hsuband doesn't either....he's soooo difficult. My 3.5 year old is much more pleasant to be with. I don't know what's wrong. The last 5 nights have been terrible so I think he could be overtired. He has been getting up and staying up from 2-4 in the AM. He is wayyy too old to that. We go in and soothe once, I even fed him, and then we let him scream. My other child maybe would have cried 20 minutes one or two nights nad then learned that we won't come back in. This one, however, WILL scream for 3 hours. That is too much. I cna't bear sceaming for that long and I feel like he shouldn't cry. If we do go in to check his diaper he smiles so he is playing us! One night he screamed bloody murder for 2 hours, no joke. He screamed like someone was tearing off his limbs. NOthing is wrong. I took him to the dr to check his ears praying that was the issue. They are fine. My gut says something is not right. He had an awful birth....broken shoulder, didn't breath on his own for a while, but dr. says he is perfectly healthy. I laugh and say yea, until you spend more than 5 minutes wiht him you know he is "special!" I am just very frustrated. He is too, but I feel like this is just more than the normal temper tantrums. Any advice!
I wish I had good advice, but what I can say is that I can identify with you. I have a 17.5 month old who started to be very stubborn and challenging (or more challenging) around 12 months. We've had ups and downs since then. He went through periods of being up in the middle of the night, which drove me crazy. I blamed a lot of it on teething. He has always had a hard time with the teeth coming in. They take FOREVER and each step of the way seems very painful. He is very smart and catches on quickly, which I bet your DS does too. Many colicky babies are like this. I have to be very careful to be consistent with him as far as setting rules and discipline. Otherwise he knows that he can get away with things, and he will push limits like crazy. Many things ended up being a phase (like waking up in the middle of the night and refusing to go back to sleep), and thankfully he got through them. Right now we're dealing with molars, which are killer. He got one last week, and the 2nd is poking through currently. I know this makes him extra whiney and needy, so I try to remember that when I'm at my wit's end. The other thing that makes things difficult is that he is trying so hard to be understood and to talk. Sometimes I know what he is trying to say or communicate, but many times I don't. On the subject of frustration and tantrums, Accebersmith posted this good link not too long ago. It's a long article but very helpful when it comes to dealing with tantrums: noLinks://www.askdrsears.com/html/6/T063300.asp
Anyway, I wish you the best! We will get through this and be better people because of it.
I don't want to scare you at all, but my sister's third child was was the same way. He was an extremely fussy baby and at 6 years old, it really hasn't gotten any better. He never slept well and still doesn't. I remember babysitting him at 13-14 months old and still having to bounce him to sleep (like a newborn). He'd scream and scream for hours. He would never cry himself to sleep.
At six years old, he is very delayed with speech and his fine motor skills. He has a lot of anger/behavior issues and acts out a lot. He is extremely difficult to discipline. He does not communicate well with people at all and seems to have a lot of sensory issues. He is in kindergarten now, but works with an aide and also attends special ed classes. They have tested him for Autism and some other ailments, but he so far does not really fit anything. He is not medicated either.
I'm not saying that this is your son's future and I really hope things get easier for you. However, if you do notice anything I mentioned above, I would try taking him to a neurologist. My sister says that she wishes she would have done this much earlier and had someone intervene a long time ago. She just kept thinking he would "grow out of it", but he never did.
Needless to say, my sister said that if he had been baby #1, she would not have had any others. Of course she loves him to death, but the past 6 years of her life have been so difficult with him and unfortunately, I think she has many more to go.
This makes sense. I work with intensive children in their home. Right now I work with five. Three out of those five had a history of colic. One of the three is very bright however and gets straight A's in school.
I too have a child with colic still at 12 months, and he is up every hour or more all night crying and cannot sleep between 930- 3am in the morning, sometimes all night. Food seems to bother him.. This has been going on since 8 weeks and nothing found so far. I BF and have done elimination diet and various therapy etc, and nothing helpful. Gripe water has lessened some of the symptoms. Have you tried eliminating gluten or dairy products to see if bothering him? Tylenol if teething? We sleep trained our first child thru a child sleep counsellor in Vancouver called Helen Sands and he now sleeps thru the night since 16 months old and is 3years old. We plan to so this with our colic son in the next few months once he is completely done nursing. Try and not be negative towards your son as ,as much as you are frustrated you are a mother and need to be loving and if you are feeling like you dislike him that much , you need to ask family or someone else to come in and relieve you. They sense what you feel and something could be wrong physically or neurologically. TRy the sleep training and hopefully it will work and you can have your family and sanity back. If it doesn t work then ,maybe something is wrong neurologically (autism, seizures or physical.
Sometimes I think we have to take the good with the bad, and be thankful for what we have. My 8 month old who was colic, still fights it and I have days where I feel like I can't handle her and don't know what to do. However she is unbelievable sweet and adorable, and I think that she will develop into a very loving and affectionate child, and maybe even be a grounded teen. My son was not colic which was great, but he has things that are tough about him. He is insanly rambunctious, and was not affectionate at all untill recently. I think in life we never get it all. I have an older brother and I mom shared with me that he was the most enjoyable baby and very easy. But when he was 18 months old he developed Tourettes Syndrome and she had to endure that never knowing if how bad it would be. Again, can't have it all. It's up to us to have the right attitude towards the situation, be thankful for all that IS right, and have the faith that the best is yet to come. I think that is the only way to get through this thing called colic. You are all so strong and courageous! Keep up the good work and you will surely reap what you have sown. Blessings to you and your children!
Hello, I have never posted on any board, but I feel like Im at my wits end too. I can really relate to the original poster. My daughter was born premature, but basically healthy. Since birth she has suffered through colic and acid reflux, and still is VERY difficult. I feel like a failure as a parent when I see everyone elses babies and how different they are. My life has completely stopped as I cant do anything without her crying. She is 8.5 months now and just starting to entertain herself without hysterically crying (5 min intervals without needing to be carried). She is fine and happy if I sit beside her or hold her, but the minute I walk away she screams bloody murder. Naps are our nemisis, and she now sleeps twice a day for about 20/30min each. I have decided today after having abreakdown I am going to do CIO method for naps. I just need a break and cant take the 1+ hrs it takes to get her to sleep. I have nothing to say as a solution, just a post to tell you thats you are not alone. This is so hard. Parenting is so freaking hard.
kat, if your baby is healthy I think you should CIO, her behavior could be that she's constantly overtired (?). I feel for you, it must be so hard. I really hope it helps getting your baby to sleep more during the day.
Hi im not sure if anyone will read this but wanted to add my experience. My son is now 10 months old.. since 5 weeks old he had "colic" poor boy suffered terribly from a difficult birth where he got stuck and as a result didnt have a full range of head and neck motion. I have tried everything for him oestopathy, chiropractic, kinesiology. I found he slept better easier in a baby hammock he had a miyo hammock and now sleeps in an Amby hammock. The biggest biggest difference was when I was recommended by a sleeo specialist to get him a blood test for food sensitivities. . He is sensitive to all flours, grains, nuts and cirtus... I have had to change our diet massively but the difference is fast and radical. While he still gets colic with teething it is nothing like before when I would be up every 1-2 hours all night or juggle him screaming half the day. My daughter use to wake at night for 1-3 hours every night I sought so much help and got nothing. it was suggested to take her off wheat and she slept through the night in 24 hours! Diet does crazy things!!
I don't have any suggestions but I know what it's like. My 4 month old, adjusted age is two months, cries from the second she wakes up in the morning til she goes to bed at night. She WILL NOT nap, do tummy time, go in a swing, play, eat, she won't do anything and nothing helps. I did get her on a nightly sleep schedule for the most part, that's my only quiet time and by then I'm exhausted and usually end up waking up at 3 am sitting up in the recliner to her screaming again. You're not alone. I'm getting my tubes tied because I will NEVER do this again.
I'm gonna say there is probably something about that broken shoulder that is bugging him. He can be perfectly healthy but still in pain that you may not know about. Imagine you had a broken shoulder as a baby, once it has healed I am sure it's never the same. I also don't know details so I am just guessing. I would go with your intuition that this is something bothering him despite what the doctor says. Also, have you ever dealt with sleep issues before 9 months? If you wait until after a year it can be near impossible explaining why the Crying goes on so long. HOWEVER, I would let him cry, mine went on for hours too and it took at least weeks. She is a stubborn one but she would play little games with me and was really overtired. These little ones need a lot of sleep and if they are overtired they turn into monsters and it becomes a vicious cycle. Hang in there, at some point the little "bundle" will be able to tell you whats bugging him. You need a break, some time away, reach out for help if you can, if someone can watch him for a night!