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Post by mommyof2gurlies on Dec 27, 2007 18:13:21 GMT -5
So...i know i've said this a MILLION times, and I've had plenty of other colicky baby moms agree....
I just saw this lady who has a baby 3 weeks older than Brookie (which would put her at approx. 8 months)
Her baby is......well........doesnt do much but sleep. Doesnt laugh, doesnt have a personality....isnt very smart (in my opinion)
I just saw her carrying her into the house in her INFANT CARSEAT!! That little girl is always in that thing.
I was just telling my husband...Good god! I can't even imagine putting Brooklyn in an infant carseat and carrying her into anywhere these days. She refused to do that since about 3 months old. She would not be carried anywhere. I have to pick her up in and out of the car since she was that little. She would NOT have that!!!! Are you kidding me? She would be sitting up refusing to lay back...trying to see everything...yelling at me so I would get her out, and let her at the WORLD!!!
Brooklyn may be a lot louder, and demanding....and had a bumpy start to her life, being colicky and all, but the PROOF IS IN THE PUDDING i'll tell ya!!!
Her baby was an easy baby from day one, (slept thru the night, never cried) but if you put both girls together, its like Brooklyn is 12 months, and her baby is like 4 months. Thats about all she does. Sleep....and lay in her carseat looking at things. She doesnt try to move around...she doesnt babble...she doesnt make funny faces and silly noises, she doesnt interact with you. Shes just there.....sitting. Being boring. Shes not like, mentally disabled or anything...just has no personality
I am SO thankful for my ex-screamer 
It was SO worth it to go thru almost 5 months of screaming, to have such a smart, happy, expressive baby that is full of personality
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Post by phxmama on Dec 27, 2007 18:25:19 GMT -5
I'd never thought about this before, but I think you're right. Georgia is not quite 3 months yet and she doesn't want to be in the infant seat when we're out and about either. She's always trying to lift her little head to see what's going on. I have to hold her facing forward, so she can people watch. I always tell my mom that part of the reason why I think she is so fussy is that she's so ready to get up and go already. It's like she's tired of being a baby and not being able to just get up and walk away like she wants to! My husband always says that she won't be a pushover either as she's so strong willed and already KNOWS what she wants, lol.
Just a new way to look at our fussy, but smart babies!
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Post by mommyof2gurlies on Dec 27, 2007 18:33:30 GMT -5
No doubt.
I experienced this with my oldest too. She was colicky, but always way more aware, alert, and into the world....than her other baby friends her age. The older she got the more it showed. She still FAR ahead of a lot of the other kids in her preschool. Her teacher told me that for her being the youngest child there (its 3-5 year olds) shes the most ahead in writing, counting, etc.
Brooklyn NEVER would allow me to put her in a carrier that faced towards me. We spent $120 on the ERGO baby carrier with the infant insert and used it for about 10 mins. She'd scream and scream. I bought a $5 Snugli from a second hand baby store, and that was the only thing she went in till she was about 6 months. She had to face out and stare at everything. She had to take in the world around her...
Even now, when we ride in the car...she stares at the rain droplets coming down the window and watches outside. When we get out of the car, the rain hits her and she looks up and looks back down at the drop on her arm....and looks up. I can almost see her brain ticking, putting things together.
She totally understands what we tell her. She looks so frustrated all the time, because its obvious she knows what she wants, but she cant do it. She cant speak all the words she wants, she cant walk around like she wants.....
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Post by pamcrt on Dec 27, 2007 22:45:45 GMT -5
Abby is weird. She's dealt with the car seat just because she's had to, but when we get somewhere, d**nit, I better take her out and let her sit up in the basket because she does NOT want to be in her car seat. She loves the fact that she can sit up and look around and watch people. She just hangs out, kicking her feet, SUCKING on her thumb... aaarrrggghhh... I hate that thumb!!! My best friend's daughter is 16 months old and just started walking, she was born at 32 weeks, so she's a preemie. She's had some problems, not mentally, but a few health problems so she just started doing things a little late. So when I told her that Abby was already crawling and now pulling up on things and now trying to "walk", move around on things, she was like man, she's going to be walking better than Molly soon. I almost feel bad, but you know what, I don't really because I went through so many months of hell- screaming, no sleep, frustration, hurt, anger, you name it. And Molly, from the day she came home, slept through the night, barely ever cried, basically my B.F. had it easy. So am I glad I went through what I did, maybe- depends on the day you ask me!! Does Abby still cry and feel the need to be held constantly- yes, is she a high needs baby- yes, would I trade her for one of those "other" babies that slept through the night and never made a peep- probably not (again, depends on the day you ask ), and mainly because I don't think I would appreciate the baby I have now if I hadn't had to go through all that crap to get to the good stuff... the smiles, the giggles, the hugs, the open mouth kisses and the love she gives at night. |
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Post by accebersmith on Dec 28, 2007 9:39:51 GMT -5
Amen to that, Pam. After six months of sheer hell, once the colic left, it was as if the elves had switched our baby and left a changeling. Gavin is a joyous, exuberant, expressive dynamo, and we enjoy him so much! Looking back, both my husband and I agree that we wouldn't change a thing. Yes, it was hard...the hardest thing we've ever done...but it was worth it for this precious little human being. I once told Gavin, in utero, that I couldn't wait to meet him. It was worth the wait.
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Post by Aliki on Dec 31, 2007 15:49:43 GMT -5
All I can say, is that I am so happy I found this message board..not that I have much time to be online with a constantly screaming baby...but, it feels good to know that there are others out there, and that you have survived..my baby is 9 weeks old, and we are in the thick of it..we love our baby, but we are in total hell right now..it is so painful and difficult. I heard this ends at 3 months...but sounds like it can go longer!  |
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Post by pamcrt on Dec 31, 2007 15:57:09 GMT -5
Aliki,
unfortunately, yes, colic winds up going on longer than the "magic" 3 months... but in the end, you wind up with a baby that you appreciate more BECAUSE you had to go through all the crap to get to the good stuff. Each day you deal with different challenges, but each day you learn more than you did the day before. Hang in there and keep coming on here whenever you can. We are always here to offer support and advice whenever you need it.
Big hugs,
Pam
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Post by aliki on Dec 31, 2007 16:48:57 GMT -5
Thank you Pam...I just feel so hopeless, tired, and depressed, and I am hanging on to your kind words right now!
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Post by basy45 on Dec 31, 2007 18:52:04 GMT -5
Aliki- It's hard to believe that only a few short months ago, I was in the same place you are now. Whenever my son was awake, he was either nursing endlessly, or crying. I cried almost every day, regretted the decision to have a baby, and was so sleep deprived that I didn't think I would be able to go on for another day. His colic gradually started to end at around 4 months, and now I have the most amazing 7.5 month old baby that I have ever seen. He is happy most of the time, he is incredibly alert and aware, and I thoroughly enjoy spending every day with him.
I know how hard things are right now, but they will improve, and when they do you will be amazed at how far you have come, and by how incredible your new baby is. Pam is right- going through this incredibly difficult experience is going to make you appreciate all the little things so much more. Try to hang in there, and not focus on the magic 3 month mark, since it is just a load of bull.
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Post by phxmama on Dec 31, 2007 19:52:38 GMT -5
Oh Aliki, my heart goes out to you. I guess that I was one of the "lucky" ones, that my daughter seemed to go through the worst of it around 5-6 weeks and it has gradually subsided since then (she is now 11 weeks). I remember feeling so depressed and crying everyday. I too felt that having a baby was a HUGE mistake. Do you have some family around that can take the baby at times you feel like you're going to lose it? My husband was traveling extensively during the worst of it and we have no family around, it was horrible. I'll be thinking of you and please hang in there. I promise that it will get better at some point.
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