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Post by mel5mel on Dec 29, 2007 22:52:56 GMT -5
Ok so Christmas has been something else.... someone should have told me that when you have the first kid around to hide for christmas at our own house (weve been at my moms since sunday) anyways so all this festiveness has been alot for P, little to no respect for nap times... inlaws wanted us there at 1230 and then fooled around for an hour then P was fussy bc he was tired... and it really bothers me when people say... man is he fussy... like hello hes tired... and he wants to be in his bed. I told my husband that it really bothers me when people call him fussy... its always his family that does it. we have worked so hard to get p to a place where he is happy and healthy so if he cant just lay his head down and sleep anywhere he likes to be in his bed. anyways i needed to rant....luckly vacation is almost over and we wont be returning anytime soon
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Post by pamcrt on Dec 29, 2007 23:21:51 GMT -5
No, I completely understand. My sister (the one I don't talk to anymore because she's a beyotch) started to say that stuff about Abby around the time our family had the falling out. Apparently she thought because I couldn't get Abby quiet and settled down, I was a bad parent. I guess she fails to remember HER colicky baby who was 10 times worse than Abby. Sometimes I find myself saying, "She's just tired." or "She's fussy because she doesn't feel good." just to get people to shut up and leave me and Abby alone. It's safer sometimes to be the one to say it rather than to let others say it first. Kind of like it wards off anyone being ugly, like you saying, yah, he's tired, let's get this show on the road people, I don't want to be here all freaking day...
I used to have inlaws like that. My exMIL was (and still is) a heavy drinker and when Masie was 6 weeks old, I was still breastfeeding and it was New Year's Eve and we had to attend a party and everyone but me was blitzed I was trying to leave at midnight. I was tired, I wanted... needed, to get my baby home, they wouldn't give her to me so I could nurse her, they just kept giving her bottles, so I hadn't nursed her since 5 pm that evening. I tried for 2 hours to leave and she kept taking Masie from me and running around the house, drunk, with my 6 week old in her arms. When I finally got her I was bawling and went to put Masie in her car seat and my MIL kicked it out from underneath me as I was putting the baby in it and I almost dropped Masie on a tile floor. I was so pissed I called her a f****ng b i t c h. She just laughed. Now mind you, the whole time my ex (husband at the time) just sat there and let her do this and said nothing. Jerk. So by the time I got home I had not b.feed her in almost 10 hours. I had leaked through my nursing pads, through my bra, my shirt. I took it all off and it was just pouring out, literally. So I just grabbed cups and started catching it. My boobs were so full and so hard they hurt. I can't even tell you how much milk I got that night. But let's just say, she and I do NOT get along now. Love my ex FIL, can't stand that woman though...
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Post by karime on Dec 30, 2007 8:09:01 GMT -5
Ugh I had the same problem. We went to my in-laws for a late Christmas celebration yesterday and I was not looking forward to it because we are always over there forever. Levi was great at first but then needed a nap and started getting fussy. He got his nap, but he's not a great napper and was still kinda tired and irritable after the nap. It was so frustrating because my MIL kept suggesting things-she asked if I could rock him in a rocking chair...well, Levi HATES that! I really like her, but yesterday was a long day. Everyone kept getting in his face when he was crying/fussing which just made him really angry! I was thinking..okay people he is already tired and overwhelmed so please stay out of his face!
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Post by deeter54 on Dec 30, 2007 14:41:46 GMT -5
I know what you mean.I dread company because people do not understand when Jade gets sleepy or overstimulated she will explode.You think people would realize we know our own babies.
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Post by pamcrt on Dec 30, 2007 20:11:54 GMT -5
Seriously. The ONLY persons advice I can handle is my own mothers. I can't even handle it when Steven tries to suggest something because it's like, dude, I'm with her ALL day long. I know what's going to make her happy and what's going to piss her the hell off so just back off and do what I tell you to do. Men...
Abby actually likes to rock so I told Steven to get me a glider for Christmas and he actually listened so we've been enjoying that for the last couple of days.
But alas, right now she is crying, my other kids are making WAY to much noise, I need a REALLY strong drink and Steven is looking at me like why the hell am I not taking her. Because I want some freaking time to myself!!! LOL dork...
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Post by phxmama on Dec 31, 2007 21:47:08 GMT -5
Ugh, I know. I have a friend here that is not a parent and has no clue about babies. We went shopping and my daughter was fussy from not getting a nap and my friend kept asking me why I wouldn't just feed her. Um, I don't know, maybe because she just ate! She tried to tell me that babies don't cry when they're tired they just go to sleep!
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Post by pamcrt on Dec 31, 2007 22:27:23 GMT -5
Are you kidding me?? Did you slap her square in the face and tell her that's why she's not a parent... WOW, hope she never has kids.
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Post by phxmama on Jan 1, 2008 1:47:32 GMT -5
I have no problem pointing out to her that she doesn't have children and that she doesn't understand. And fortunately, she has no interest in having kids of her own. She is one of a group of girls that I hang out with and is one of the only ones without kids. We have all told her to mind her own business on the parenting thing, but she tends to be a bit opinionated on just about everything. While it's annoying, she is a good friend in just about every other aspect. And she honestly really cares about my daughter a lot. So I think we let it slide, but trust me we all joke about her "advice" all the time.
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