My baby hates me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[kimreyn]

I am wondering ....DOES my baby HATE ME??? I know that sounds silly ....but today he is FINE.....what IN THE WORLD!!!!! He was in so much pain and screaming and now my in laws show up and now hes silent and like a little angel??? Now I am crying in the bathroom made to look like a friggin fool!!!! what is going on here!!!? Has anyone had this happen?? I should be happy but how can I be, when I have my mother in law looking at me shaking her head saying..."what? you think this little cherub cries???" I want to SCREAM!!!!! Does my child hate me? Will he go back to being a demon when they leave??? For days hes been miserable and now hes a little angel taking his regular similac organic formula and napping and no crying at all!!!! WHAT??? I am flabberghasted. Has this ever happened to anyone here?

[pamcrt]

Oh yeah, they are evil little beings when it comes to being "perfect" for other people. Little show offs. You start to think maybe YOU have the problem... but alas, reality sets in and no, there is colic in the house, no they don't hate you- they know only unconditional love (that you will realize later), and when your inlaws leave, the next time he does start screaming- call her up and let her listen and THEN ask her if he's a "cherub"?? Tell her his horns sprouted after she left!! LOL kidding... Honestly, it happens to the best of us, they are always out to impress other people.

[llamajenn]

Back in his colicky days, David seemed to do much better with his mother-in-law than with me. He would go to her house when we needed a few hours of respite (thankfully, she lives just down the street!) and he would do pretty well. He would even sleep -- something I spend practically all day and night trying to get him to do. I didn't know what I was doing wrong. Looking back, I'm not sure if there was anything. All I can think of now is that he may have slept better because she put him on his side and not his back like we did. And she had 2 kids, one of whom was fussy (my husband!), so maybe she knew how to calm a baby better than me? Who knows. Then again, there were times when she's come over to help, and he's be just as fussy.
But things have changed. Now he is out of the colic and very happy most of the time. He also seems to do better with me than with her now. There may be a little separation anxiety happening, of all things.
Anyway, hang in there. Things change. He doesn't hate you, and you're probably doing everything right but it doesn't feel like it. It's an awful feeling, but it will pass!

[mel5mel]

Payton was a master of disguise, esp. at the dr. i would go in with my laundry list of complaints and he would either be sleeping or smiling it would just tick me off... so we started calling him our little fraud, apparently we called him that so much that he would smile when we would call him that, thats why we started a mommy and me group bc he was always happy when we were there... and it made me feel somewhat normal

[karime]

The first time we left Levi with my in-laws, he was apparently an "angel". He actually napped for her (I later found out that was because he fell asleep on her bed and she would pat him back to sleep everytime he started to wake up) and was very sweet, according to her. I was so jealous! Since then, however, she has gotten to see the not-so-fun side of him a couple of times! I think part of it for him was just being in a new environment, or around different people. I think it distracted him from being a terror for a bit.

[mallysmommy]

Yup, Mally's the same way. An angel for anyone but me. Give it time though, she eventually showed them her "horns" a few times and now they know what I mean.