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Post by ariasmom on Jan 27, 2014 16:06:32 GMT -5
@april, hang in there, really, it will end!!!! It really will. I know the depression, I know the disappointment of having to deal with a crying baby all the time instead of the joyful baby lighting up your life. Your child has a different personality than the little lumps that sit and stare. Learn to embrace who she is, she probably has an awesome personality and once she start crawling and even better WALKING, her attitude will change! Like I said before, I am forever scared from the experience and I am not going to lie, my now 1 year old is more difficult than other babies, pretty much than ALL other babies it seems to me. But I LOVE having a toddler much more than I did having a baby. Now that she is walking and learning about the world around her, things have gotten so much better. Her tantrums just make me laugh at how dramatic she is being, whereas the CRYING was just hurting my brain because it seemed to never end. The tantrums are easy to end, kids can be distracted with things much easier plus you start to become more of a pro at it. You are not alone, there are others out there. Just roll with it, ride the waves. Learn to say "oh well " when she cries because crying isn't the worst thing, even though in that messed up place it seems like THE WORST.
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Post by TJMommy on Feb 6, 2014 18:56:54 GMT -5
When I read your post I felt as if I had wrote it. My son is 11 weeks old today and has had colic since 3mos. He cries all the time more like screaming. My husband works second shift and the baby sleeps when he is home at night.. he is awake when with me 17 hours a day. I resent people who can take their babies places.. it upsets me to see people in public with them.. if I brought my baby he would just scream.. so what's the point.. im also in a different state because of my husband's job and dont know anyone here.. so i have no one to give me a break... i also had the worst pregnancy and didnt sleep for 6 months during it due to a friend giving me scabies and not telling me that is what it was for 4 months... 7 doctors later i was diagnosed. so basically i havent had a break in about a year... some days like today I dont think i can go on
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Post by ariasmom on Feb 8, 2014 0:17:33 GMT -5
@ TJMommy
Today I was at Macy's because its raining and my 1 year old is going stir crazy so to the mall just to get out of the house! As I am strolling around browsing or at least trying to, my daughter is in the stroller fussing here and there but of course I can't help but notice the mom's with other babies and every time I see a mother with a new born, I just can not believe the'r baby is either 1) sleeping, or 2) Not crying because lord knows mine was EVERY SECOND she was awake. Makes me soooooo bitter. That's what comes to my mind every time I see a newborn or infant. I just can't get over it because its so normal for everyone else but it was not my reality and I feel like no one but us knows about it!!!!! Just thought I would share since I understand exactly what you mean about the resentment. I would help you if I could, if we were in the same location. Please hang in there because people like you make me feel a little less alone about what I went through.
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Post by rebeccaclaire on Feb 24, 2014 19:39:20 GMT -5
You read my mind ariasmom, i was very very lucky that my first baby was one of thosebabies everyone seems to be jealous of. I could and still can take her everywhere. Ava however, is my colicky child. I really sometimes think i am being punished for having such an easy baby the first time. Ava is very difficult, just seems like the crying will never end and i have tried everything i can possibly think of and nothong has helped. Its slowly getting better and she does sleepbat night for me except to eat. But all day long from when she wakes up to when she goes down for the night she either cries or sleeps or eats with small periods of being content. I wake up every morning hoping it is different and once i see itvisnt i just dread the rest of the day. Today i felt like i was literallt goung to have a panic attack bc she wouldnt calm down. But just when i was on the verge, she calmed down for me some. I know this will end, it keeps me going when i think i just cant do it another day. I want to enjoy my daugjter so badly and i feel so guilty that i do not enjoyher right now.
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Post by ariasmom on Feb 27, 2014 15:11:40 GMT -5
You gotta take it one day at a time, thinking ahead and counting down to 3 or 4 months is really hard and makes it seem like forever. Don't even think about tomorrow, just today, Focus on getting through today. Then before you know it, you will have a toddler and look back and feel like a champ for surviving that. It must be hard having an easier ( I like to say easier because every baby has SOME difficulties right? I think? Lol) but it must be hard having the easy one the first time because then your expectations for the sec are different and its shocking when they are colic. I have an old family friend who told me her 3rd child was a colic baby and had she had him 1st she would have never had another kid after that! Lol. Its tough.
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