Post by mariel on Nov 17, 2014 10:46:40 GMT -5
We've been struggling since the magic 2/3 week turning point. We thought the sleeplessness, periods of inconsolable crying, and frequent non-hunger related nightwakings were related to gas, reflux, food allergies, etc. and tried zantac, Prevacid, gas drops, gripe water, probiotics, elimination diets, colief- you name it, we tried it. I was loathe to admit it was colic but now at 11 weeks of misery, I'm ready to confront the truth.
Unlike some colicky babies, she isn't unhappy all the time and her crying spells aren't limited to a certain time of day. In fact she can be very smiley giggly and babbling and a second later she's shrieking and inconsolable- all day long. I've worked out that she can comfortably be awake for about an hour before she needs a nap (she shows no tired cues) so I feed her, take the 15-20 min I have to use the bathroom, eat, maybe shower and then put her in the boba wrap, go to bathroom, turn off lights and turn on the shower and bounce vigorously. if im lucky and catch her at the right time, shes asleep within 5 minutes (though of course she doesn't always stay asleep so I have to repeat it if she wakes up when I leave the bathroom). If I'm unlucky.....its a total nutsshow of hours of in the boba out of the boba, comfort nurse to calm her down, ad nauseam. I usually manage - by completely foregoing to take care of myself - to eke out 4- 5 hours of daytime sleep. I know she's frequently overtired but she has such a hard time "turning it off" and tuning out the world.. She's better at night with settling, perhaps because lights are off and there's less to be distracted by - we swaddle, nurse, and rock and are able to put her down after about an hour. She used to go 3/3.5 hours in the first stretch and then she'd be up every 1-2 hours later for the rest of the night. Now, after about 2 hours, she wakes up and no matter how long we wait and how deeply she's out before we put her down, she's up in 25 minutes, every single time. She will only sleep when held. We tried cosleeping in the bed and she won't even tolerate that- she HAS to be held. My spouse and I trade off in 2 hour chunks of holding her in the glider or sofa.
I thought things would be getting easier by now but instead things seem worse. I used to be able to bounce on the yoga ball or rock (vigorously) in the glider to get her calm/asleep (though I have to hold her for all naps during the day because she hasn't been able to be put down for naps since week 3). Now even the bathroom/boba combo is hit or miss and the nights have completely gone to nuts. I am beyond exhausted and the stress has now made it impossible for me to pump (I was able to get 4 oz in 6 minutes in the beginning to now barely 1 oz in 20 minutes) so I can't even take a night to myself and have someone else feed her because I don't have enough milk saved up.
I guess I mostly wanted to vent but also find out whether anyone else's baby got worse before they got better? When were you able to start putting your baby down to sleep? Swings, car rides, stroller: none of that works; she's only "dozed off" on her own in the car seat or stroller a couple times. What terrifies me most is that this won't go away at 3 or 4 months and I won't sleep for a year (or worse). Please tell me it gets better!
Unlike some colicky babies, she isn't unhappy all the time and her crying spells aren't limited to a certain time of day. In fact she can be very smiley giggly and babbling and a second later she's shrieking and inconsolable- all day long. I've worked out that she can comfortably be awake for about an hour before she needs a nap (she shows no tired cues) so I feed her, take the 15-20 min I have to use the bathroom, eat, maybe shower and then put her in the boba wrap, go to bathroom, turn off lights and turn on the shower and bounce vigorously. if im lucky and catch her at the right time, shes asleep within 5 minutes (though of course she doesn't always stay asleep so I have to repeat it if she wakes up when I leave the bathroom). If I'm unlucky.....its a total nutsshow of hours of in the boba out of the boba, comfort nurse to calm her down, ad nauseam. I usually manage - by completely foregoing to take care of myself - to eke out 4- 5 hours of daytime sleep. I know she's frequently overtired but she has such a hard time "turning it off" and tuning out the world.. She's better at night with settling, perhaps because lights are off and there's less to be distracted by - we swaddle, nurse, and rock and are able to put her down after about an hour. She used to go 3/3.5 hours in the first stretch and then she'd be up every 1-2 hours later for the rest of the night. Now, after about 2 hours, she wakes up and no matter how long we wait and how deeply she's out before we put her down, she's up in 25 minutes, every single time. She will only sleep when held. We tried cosleeping in the bed and she won't even tolerate that- she HAS to be held. My spouse and I trade off in 2 hour chunks of holding her in the glider or sofa.
I thought things would be getting easier by now but instead things seem worse. I used to be able to bounce on the yoga ball or rock (vigorously) in the glider to get her calm/asleep (though I have to hold her for all naps during the day because she hasn't been able to be put down for naps since week 3). Now even the bathroom/boba combo is hit or miss and the nights have completely gone to nuts. I am beyond exhausted and the stress has now made it impossible for me to pump (I was able to get 4 oz in 6 minutes in the beginning to now barely 1 oz in 20 minutes) so I can't even take a night to myself and have someone else feed her because I don't have enough milk saved up.
I guess I mostly wanted to vent but also find out whether anyone else's baby got worse before they got better? When were you able to start putting your baby down to sleep? Swings, car rides, stroller: none of that works; she's only "dozed off" on her own in the car seat or stroller a couple times. What terrifies me most is that this won't go away at 3 or 4 months and I won't sleep for a year (or worse). Please tell me it gets better!