Post by raylene58 on Dec 3, 2013 19:29:21 GMT -5
I am trying to understand why my 3 ½ month old cries so much. At first we thought he was colicky, as he would have these fits of rage cries every night around the same time, and cry throughout the day. So we changed his formula, we noticed less gas and he was not so tense, but he still cried a majority of his waking hours. He always preferred being held, and even then sometimes he would cry.
He can now go longer stretches without crying by sitting in our lap or in a chair, but he still can only be content 15-20 minutes is any device before he starts crying, then we pick him up and walk around the house with him in a bouncing motion to calm him down. But I can only walk around with him for so long, I have things I need to get done at times, or just need to sit down.
He’s a very healthy weight, thriving physically and mentally by all standards, and can sleep in long stretches, it’s just that he’s unhappy or unsettled most of the time and is constantly trying to do more then he can. He clearly wants to walk and be independent, but he cannot yet, and I feel like that is where much of his frustration comes from. Is he normal ? Is he a high needs baby? Colicky?
Are we spoiling him by picking him up? Some say it’s like Pavlov’s dogs, they learn if they cry you will pick them up every time so they repeat the behavior. Others say no you are not spoiling them it builds trust and shows you respond to their needs and they trust you more.
What do we do? We also live in a small apartment so I don’t want to let him cry for long periods of time and disturb the neighbors, but at the same time I cannot keep this up and entrain him all day every day.
Do we wait until he can start playing independently and sitting up/crawling and see if he’s still just as unhappy? Then if he is still just as fussy, then take some action? Or take action now? Part of me feels that part of his fussiness is because he just wants to be grown and do things, but his body won’t allow him. I could be wrong, I just want to do the right thing and have a happy semi content baby like others do.
At his point I do not need soothing techniques, rather I want to get the root of his unhappiness and figure out why he’s so unsettled most of the time. Advice?
?
He can now go longer stretches without crying by sitting in our lap or in a chair, but he still can only be content 15-20 minutes is any device before he starts crying, then we pick him up and walk around the house with him in a bouncing motion to calm him down. But I can only walk around with him for so long, I have things I need to get done at times, or just need to sit down.
He’s a very healthy weight, thriving physically and mentally by all standards, and can sleep in long stretches, it’s just that he’s unhappy or unsettled most of the time and is constantly trying to do more then he can. He clearly wants to walk and be independent, but he cannot yet, and I feel like that is where much of his frustration comes from. Is he normal ? Is he a high needs baby? Colicky?
Are we spoiling him by picking him up? Some say it’s like Pavlov’s dogs, they learn if they cry you will pick them up every time so they repeat the behavior. Others say no you are not spoiling them it builds trust and shows you respond to their needs and they trust you more.
What do we do? We also live in a small apartment so I don’t want to let him cry for long periods of time and disturb the neighbors, but at the same time I cannot keep this up and entrain him all day every day.
Do we wait until he can start playing independently and sitting up/crawling and see if he’s still just as unhappy? Then if he is still just as fussy, then take some action? Or take action now? Part of me feels that part of his fussiness is because he just wants to be grown and do things, but his body won’t allow him. I could be wrong, I just want to do the right thing and have a happy semi content baby like others do.
At his point I do not need soothing techniques, rather I want to get the root of his unhappiness and figure out why he’s so unsettled most of the time. Advice?
?