I am soooo happy I found this board. I am at my wit's end. DS has been colic for the past 4 months. We've done all the "typical" things and nothing has calmed him down. Everyone kept telling me by 2 or 3 months it would fade but DS is almost 4 1/2 months and still going to strong with screaming. I cry all the time, I'm exhausted, I constantly snap at my 2 1/2 year old daughter (and I know it's not her fault). DH works very long hours so he helps when he can, but is not around a lot so it all falls on me. My Mom tries and help when she can, but she works full-time and all my mother-in-law has to say, "Oh, my kids slept straight through from a few weeks old." or "You must be missing something, he's not crying for no reason." which as you all can imagine makes me feel even worse.
If anyone has any advice, I'm all ears. At this point we just try and make it day by day.
My baby girl started off really well and only started crying at around 6 weeks. Since then its been a drama everyday. Her best time of day is when she first wakes up in the morning. Then she just gets progressivlyn worse throughout the day. She is 16 weeks now so im thinking this should have passed??? Tonight i nearly lost my mind, called my mum crying saying that i couldnt cope. Just feel so hopeless sometimes. Hope it ends soon
Post by accebersmith on Feb 12, 2010 4:40:10 GMT -5
Yes, jfabmom, our son, Gavin, had colic until he was 8 months old. Now, you'd never know he had colic at all. It gets so much better, I swear! Just hang in there. Keep posting here and venting whenever you need to. It's why we're here. And be sure to let me know if there's anything I can do for you.
Post by mom to 3 girls on Mar 12, 2010 22:11:47 GMT -5
Hi my daughter is 6 1/2 months and still crying more than ever. I'm at my wits end here dont have any support here. beside hubby when he home and he only can take so much plus I also have two other little girls so dealing with the baby crying is real hand full. and crys all day long from 7am to 9 pm. its a non stop crying. she is never happy.
Post by Momto2girls on Mar 16, 2010 12:18:36 GMT -5
I was hopefully that it would peak at 6 and decline by 12. KM is 9 weeks, and it is only getting worse. I have done the Doc, Chiro, warm nightly baths, warm comprasses in the evening, a different type of swing, etc. NOTHING works. She won't sit in a car seat, bouncer or swing. Every car trip is nonstop screaming and she is wet with sweat. I go back to work in 2 weeks and I am scared. I know how hard it is for me to not snap. I fear she will be hurt or left to scream for hours on end. I have little family support and those I thought to be close friends have drifted away or don't want to hear about it anymore. My husband is trying but at a lose as much as I am. I so understand the never happy part.
Everyone keeps telling me that it will get easier, and that someday I will miss the tiny little baby I have in my arms.... But at 10:00pm tomorrow night he will be 4 months old and so far I have spent at least 20 hours/day with a screaming baby. My only break, and I thank god for it, is the 4 hours/4 days a week that I go to school...
I'm exhausted but very happy I've found this support group!! Much love!
My daughter will be 4 months next week, and she still cries all day/every day it seems. I am going to lose it if this goes on for much longer. I am praying to see improvement soon. This has been the most difficult 4 months of my life and I cannot wait for it to "get easier" like everyone says. I don't think I am having anymore kids...I can't risk another colicky baby!! Reading the posts on here is helping, but i just cant see the light at the end of thge tunnel yet
Post by newmummy27 on Aug 21, 2010 15:37:08 GMT -5
I can really relate to your post. My little one screamed (screamed and not cried!)for hours and hours every day was always miserable even when not screaming and also high needs constantly wanted to be held and nothing would console her it was by far the hardest 5 months of my life but it did get easier gradually the good days started to out way the bad until u would never have known she had colic and she is the happiest little girl , and an absolute delight! She is now two and very advance for her age and although wilfull and independant a very good toddler. I know it seems like it will never end and you will never get through it but you will i promise! What your mother in law says is soo cruel with a 'normal non colicky baby yes they do only cry for a reason and are easily consoled my son is like that and mums who only have babies like that can never understand how hard it is for us!!!! With a colciky baby they do cry for no reason (although often in pain) but no reason that you can either control or help and all you can really do is be there for them while it is happening believe there is nothing more you can really do!!! You are doing an amazing job!! I really hope things improve soon zo x
Our boy is almost 9 months and was horribly colicky. He is better but he is still REALLY fussy and requires almost constant attention where most other babies this age can be left on their own for periods of time and not cry and fuss. So the crying 8 hours a day has been replaced by 1-2 hrs of crying and him being fussy and requiring us to devote every second to him for th rest of the day.
I am so glad I found this board too. I visit tonight after breaking down crying over my son while putting him down. I am starting to get rough with him...and feel like snapping. I feel like such a bad mom, like I can't do anything right, can't please him. I wonder what his problem is. He's a puker and although we had him evaluated for it, we are going to seek a second opinion. We just don't feel like all this fussing and crying is normal. My son is 6 months and JUST LIKE what the previous poster describes in her son. CONSTANT ATTENTION! Even when I turn around to pee, he is already screaming. It is such a huge drain, beyond belief, especially when you also have a two year old to take care of (and feel like you are doing a bad job at that since you are spending so much time with your high maintenance infant. I am so angry at him all the time but then feel bad. It's just a bad deal. I look forward to looking around on this site more now.