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Post by newmama on Sept 27, 2013 10:50:15 GMT -5
I promised myself I would post if I felt we had made it through...And I believe that we have...It gets better moms!! I didnt think that it would. Like all of you- I was desperate, sad, confused and counting down the days wondering when it would end. I know some babies have a medical issue- I am not sure if our lil girl ever did. (ie- reflux) Colic is such a mystery and I said this before. I wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy! She is going on 4 mos next week. I would say for the past 2 weeks there has been a complete difference. So much happier for longer stretches. She has her moments. But we have figured out how to handle them. Our little one can only handle being awake for 1 1/2 to 2 hours max. So our days usually go like this....Feed, wake time for an hour and a half- 2 hours, nap, feed...repeat... We try and hold off bottles for 3 hours but sometimes she just cannot wait. She is hungry! I am tired of googling whats right whats wrong. Just go with the flow moms. That is my new motto. She is a snacker! Even the doctor told me that. We give her 24-30 ounces of formula a day. It varies. As long as we stay within that guideline- We feed as needed! I take notes from my Mom! She is never cranky for her. Why? Because she feeds her! lol. We are now putting her to sleep around 7:30pm..We can tell she is tired. Rubbing eyes, yawning..We watch for cues all day! She sleeps through the night some nights. Other nights she may wake once. When she does sleep through night it is from 7:30pm-6am usually which I realize is amazing. We have a routine...Somedays bath, onesie, playing/cooing on changing table, lights out, bottle, bed. I just want to offer some hope..because I needed it when i was in the throes of colic. It gets better!! And I can tell you...You do forget...You forget how awful it was. You really do. Hang in there moms. You are doing a great job!!!
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Post by alexmom on Oct 3, 2013 5:43:33 GMT -5
That's great! I'm so happy for you!
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Post by Amber Lynn on Oct 3, 2013 6:33:42 GMT -5
Thank you so much for the encouraging words! Its always nice to hear when someone makes it through!
What you said about googling everything hit home. I too, am tired of googling everything.Hell we are just about at 11 weeks and somedays I still try and Google a cure, even though I know it's not out there.
So thank you for the post and I cannot wait until I can write the same thing!!
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Post by raylene58 on Oct 5, 2013 22:36:48 GMT -5
So good to hear, my son is 7 weeks and seems unhappy for most of his waking hours but sleeps at night well. Me and my hubby do everything in shifts and it gets lonely. I wonder when will it get better.. I promised myself I would post if I felt we had made it through...And I believe that we have...It gets better moms!! I didnt think that it would. Like all of you- I was desperate, sad, confused and counting down the days wondering when it would end. I know some babies have a medical issue- I am not sure if our lil girl ever did. (ie- reflux) Colic is such a mystery and I said this before. I wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy! She is going on 4 mos next week. I would say for the past 2 weeks there has been a complete difference. So much happier for longer stretches. She has her moments. But we have figured out how to handle them. Our little one can only handle being awake for 1 1/2 to 2 hours max. So our days usually go like this....Feed, wake time for an hour and a half- 2 hours, nap, feed...repeat... We try and hold off bottles for 3 hours but sometimes she just cannot wait. She is hungry! I am tired of googling whats right whats wrong. Just go with the flow moms. That is my new motto. She is a snacker! Even the doctor told me that. We give her 24-30 ounces of formula a day. It varies. As long as we stay within that guideline- We feed as needed! I take notes from my Mom! She is never cranky for her. Why? Because she feeds her! lol. We are now putting her to sleep around 7:30pm..We can tell she is tired. Rubbing eyes, yawning..We watch for cues all day! She sleeps through the night some nights. Other nights she may wake once. When she does sleep through night it is from 7:30pm-6am usually which I realize is amazing. We have a routine...Somedays bath, onesie, playing/cooing on changing table, lights out, bottle, bed. I just want to offer some hope..because I needed it when i was in the throes of colic. It gets better!! And I can tell you...You do forget...You forget how awful it was. You really do. Hang in there moms. You are doing a great job!!!
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Post by raylene58 on Oct 5, 2013 22:48:48 GMT -5
Omg I sympathize with all of you . My son is asleep on my chest as we speak for fear of waking him and starting the crying and calming song and dance over again. He's 7 weeks and his so fussy in his waking hours, he hates to be put down in anything . Bouncer . Swing boppie, he lasts 15 minutes tops before he cries, to me it seems for no reason. We changed to soy and upped his ounces per the doctor, but even then he's unhappy most of the time he's up, almost as if he's annoyed he can't do more, like as soon as he realizes he's not eating or being held, hes annoyed and even then when hes on us he may still whale for long times and fight sleep. I think just give up already and chill please, but he can't. I google everything, heck it's how I found this site. The only thing I have found he likes is walks in his stroller where he stares at the world while feeling motion . I too feel bad around other moms secretly wishing I had their baby's temperament . I can't tell them I feel like I'm in baby jail and am constantly wondering when my hubby will relieve me. Yes I'm lucky he sleeps well at night but I guess its a trade off. I wonder when will it end? When will he snap out of it? When will I get to enjoy my baby I only get to marvel at him when he sleeps and eats... I take photos of him asleep so I can appreciate him .. I feel so depressed.. I want to start having happy moments with my son like the rest of the world.
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Post by Amber Lynn on Oct 6, 2013 6:35:29 GMT -5
Hi raylene. How old is your baby? ? Is it any worse in the evening for you or pretty much the same all day?
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Post by raylene58 on Oct 6, 2013 12:23:54 GMT -5
He is 7 weeks . His day time crying is more hit and miss like I feel he need stimulus, and when he realizes he's not doing anything, he cries or he fights sleep and cries. So if he's up for 1.5 to 2 hours part of that will be spent crying, it won't be uncontrollable, usually holding him and a pacifier work. But..... From 7-9 pm most nights he fights tooth n Nail to sleep like we are hurting him, my hubby has to get him in a tight baby hold with his arms controlled to get him down. Then he sleeps for a long time . Sometimes he skips the fight.. But we always expect one major fight a day and a Series of cries all day that are less traumatic. I feel bad I may get my disability extened but can't imagine being home alone dealing with this 2 more months . Even if I was with out a baby, I've never been off work this long. I know in my heart it's better for him to go thru rhis with me since I'm his mom, but part of me needs some normalcy and want to get back in a routine. How about you ? How is your baby doing? Are u still at home all day ?
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Post by amberlynn on Oct 7, 2013 7:52:27 GMT -5
Raylene,
11 weeks tomorrow and I have seen improvement. He is not so difficult to console now and the screaming isn't happening every evening. I am still at home, but seeking part-time employment. We need the money!
Google high needs babies. It seems like your little boy may fit this category. Mine does.
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Post by newmama on Oct 7, 2013 12:57:45 GMT -5
Im back! We have had a few bad days...But Nothing like it was in the beginning..I think she may be teething or still having some colic days..@ raylene58...I feel your pain. It is the toughest thing you will ever do. But I do promise it gets better. One thing that did work for us when nothing else would...The hairdryer! We would swaddle her, rock her with pacifier in the bathroom with the blowdryer near her head. It was like a light switch. Almost instantly she would fall asleep. amberlynn...I actually googled high needs baby after reading this..Sounds like our lil one! Although I am so beyond tired of googling everything..I still do it!. Thank goodness for the internet!
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Post by raylene58 on Oct 9, 2013 15:30:36 GMT -5
Aamberylnn..so annoyed I wrote a long response, but something happened and it all got lost, so this is my shorter version. I did read the high needs article, and wow a good 7-8 of those seems like my son, especially the part that says ..I can never put him down. I say that 80 percent of the time hes up, he cries or whines and wants to be held. He stays in a boppie a max of 15 min before a cry ensues. The main colicky thing I would say is the evening rage cry for seemingly no reason, but some nights he spares us, and for those cries we have a method to shut that down, the love lock, where he has no choice but to stop crying after a while because hes expending all of his energy fighting us, and we are using all of our energy containing him.
Having said that, is he high needs or colicky? or does it matter. When I thought he was colicky I was thinking ok the light at the end of the tunnel may be 3-4 months, if hes just high needs what then?? How long?? I cant go on doing nothing all day long, what then when hes in daycare etc??? You said your baby is better at 11 weeks? how so, what gradual changes have you seen? How is yours compared to mine?
@ newmamma do you mean your baby likes the actual sound of the hair dryer being on and falls asleep to the sound of it on? After reading all this you say things are better for you, what do you think was the real cause of your babies' unhappiness. Colic? High needs? physical?? a combo?
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Post by raylene58 on Oct 9, 2013 15:47:46 GMT -5
what do you think of this terminology.. Instead of the ambiguous colic?? Makes me feel better ...
noLinks://www.purplecrying.info/what-is-the-period-of-purple-crying.php
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Post by amberlynn on Oct 10, 2013 5:30:44 GMT -5
raylene,
I think my son was/is a mixture of high needs and colic because we had the crazy screaming in the evening as well. The non-stop crying in the evening for us seems to be just about over (fingers crossed) but he is still a very sensitive, touchy, needy baby although I am seeing changes in him everyday. Your baby is probably a mixture as well and may continue to be a little more work than other babies after the colic is gone. At least that is what I am thinking. Who really knows though? Even the experts really have no clue what is going on with these babies.
At 11 weeks 2 days, my son still is fussier in the evening than he is at all day, but we can usually console him.
As for the rage cry in the evening, our last one was Thursday last week. We haven't had a night such as that since. I have my hopes up that it is just about over. We just have to work on our bedtime routine. As soon as we get him out of the bathtub, he cries bloody murder and gets all worked up every single night. I think we are going to try and skip the bath and just cloth him off and see how that goes instead.
As for the gradual changes, as he gets older and is doing more, I see him getting better and better each day as he is taking in his surroundings and learning. It's almost like he realized that the world isn't so bad and hey...I don't have to cry all day long anymore.
Like I said, I would not call him an Angel baby by any means because he still gets bored or over stimulated easily and is only happy doing one thing 10-15 minutes but is much easier to handle than he used to.
We were at our worst around 7-8 weeks. As your baby gets older, I am sure you will start to see changes as well. You don't have that much longer to go girl!
In our early days, the hairdryer worked like a charm for us as well. During his crying fits, we would lay him in his rock n play and put the hairdryer somewhere nearby on full blast. Calmed him every single tie. With us though, as soon as you turned it off he was back at it. It is the sound that they enjoy.
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